If I get your chart right, you only recommend physical discipline in order to get a child's attention and establish yourself as someone important enough to listen to. That fits very well with my experience.
I live in a jurisdiction where intentionally causing children any physical comfort is seen as Unbelievably Immoral. So I have a lot of experience in not hitting my children.
Especially I remember when one of my sons was three years old. In the mornings, he invented a new game: He wouldn't put on his clothes. He thought his new game was hilarious. He laughed non-stop while he wrestled away from me. Extremely funny, he thought. Much more fun than day-care center.
I'm not a petite and weak woman. In fact I'm rather sturdy. But that didn't help me, because sturdy mothers tend to get sturdy sons. My son was too strong for me to force if he didn't comply at all. I also couldn't lift him forcefully enough or shock him enough in any other way. The slightest pinch from my side would have changed the equation for my son and the game wouldn't have been funny anymore. But intentionally causing children pain is strictly prohibited where I live.
So I always asked my husband to handle it when such occasions arose. In contrast to me, he was strong enough to lift and handle a sturdy three year old in such a convincing way that the game ceased to be funny. Through his overwhelming strength he could establish himself as someone important enough to care about.
Thankfully my son ceased with that game rather rapidly. But I think about it once in a while, and about the question it arose in me: Do we really want a system where perfectly healthy mothers are not strong enough to handle a three-year-old?
If I get your chart right, you only recommend physical discipline in order to get a child's attention and establish yourself as someone important enough to listen to. That fits very well with my experience.
I live in a jurisdiction where intentionally causing children any physical comfort is seen as Unbelievably Immoral. So I have a lot of experience in not hitting my children.
Especially I remember when one of my sons was three years old. In the mornings, he invented a new game: He wouldn't put on his clothes. He thought his new game was hilarious. He laughed non-stop while he wrestled away from me. Extremely funny, he thought. Much more fun than day-care center.
I'm not a petite and weak woman. In fact I'm rather sturdy. But that didn't help me, because sturdy mothers tend to get sturdy sons. My son was too strong for me to force if he didn't comply at all. I also couldn't lift him forcefully enough or shock him enough in any other way. The slightest pinch from my side would have changed the equation for my son and the game wouldn't have been funny anymore. But intentionally causing children pain is strictly prohibited where I live.
So I always asked my husband to handle it when such occasions arose. In contrast to me, he was strong enough to lift and handle a sturdy three year old in such a convincing way that the game ceased to be funny. Through his overwhelming strength he could establish himself as someone important enough to care about.
Thankfully my son ceased with that game rather rapidly. But I think about it once in a while, and about the question it arose in me: Do we really want a system where perfectly healthy mothers are not strong enough to handle a three-year-old?